Why prepare wedding chairs for babies
Why Babies Should Be Able to Get a Chair at Wedding Receptions
It’s not uncommon for a grown adult to feel like an awkward teen again when faced with a formal event such as a wedding. Whether it’s the pressure of an assigned seating plan, the dreaded pre-meal cocktail hour, or simply being around people in tuxedos and ball gowns; something about formal occasions makes most adults revert to feeling like teenagers again. Unfortunately, these awkward moments and self-conscious feelings are often amplified when you add kids to the mix. That isn’t necessarily because kids are any more awkward (or self-conscious) than adults; it’s simply because adults have habits and customs that kids don’t yet understand – let alone participate in. That said… Read on to find out why we think babies should be able to get a chair at wedding receptions
What happens when adults attend a formal event with babies?
We’ve probably all been to a wedding or formal event where there was a baby or young child in attendance. It’s not a specific age that dictates whether or not a kid should be at a wedding. Instead, it’s simply a matter of the child’s temperament and comfort level. Most kids under the age of 3 (or 4) will have a tough time sitting still for the duration of a wedding ceremony and reception. That doesn’t mean they shouldn’t be there. In fact, those are some of the most important weddings to attend as a child. Kids who attend weddings with their parents will be exposed to a wide array of cultures and classes that they normally wouldn’t have an opportunity to be exposed to. Seeing how other people live, eat, and celebrate can help kids feel more comfortable in their own skin. It also helps them learn to be more inclusive, empathetic, and understanding of others.
Why do we feel so uncomfortable at weddings with kids in tow?
As adults, most of us have been to a wedding or two in our lifetimes. We know the finality of a wedding ceremony and reception. We know that the toasts and speeches are full of love and gratitude for the couple getting married. We know that this is a special time for the bride and groom. So it makes sense that some of us might feel a little bit of that awkward teen self-consciousness again when we attend a wedding with our kids in tow. We don’t want to be the party-poopers or the group of people who are making everyone else uncomfortable. We don’t want to be that dad who ruins the pictures by having his kid climb all over the bride’s dress or the bridesmaids. We don’t want to be the family who takes up two tables at a restaurant or the guests who are sitting at the bar while everyone else has a table. All of these scenarios aren’t uncommon when adults attend a wedding with their children. It’s not that we want to be rude or inconsiderate; it’s just that we don’t know how to properly navigate the waters.
How can we help alleviate the awkwardness for both adults and kids?
The best way to help alleviate the awkwardness between adults and kids at weddings is to keep a few things in mind: – Don’t assume that the kids aren’t paying attention to the ceremony. – Make sure the kids have a spot to sit that is well out of the way of other guests. – Check in with the other guests to make sure they aren’t too distracted by the kids. – Keep the noise level down where the kids are sitting. – Be as respectful of the other guests as you expect them to be of you and your children.
Why should babies be able to get a chair at wedding receptions?
Many of us will make a point to attend the weddings of friends and family members. We want to show our support and love for those getting married. We want to support the family and friends of the bride and groom. But what about our kids? We want to make sure we’re making memories with our kids. We want to show them what it means to be part of a larger family and community. We want to show them how they fit into our world. We want to make sure they know how important they are to us. But how do we do that when they’re too young to sit quietly through a two- to three-hour ceremony and reception? By making sure that babies who can’t sit still for that long are able to get a chair at the wedding reception. Babies who are able to get a seat can still be a part of the wedding and reception. They can still be a part of the family. They can still be included. They can still be loved.
Babies can’t help it if they can’t sit still for long periods of time. They can’t help it if they get hungry or tired sooner than a toddler. They can’t help it if they don’t understand our customs and rituals yet. As adults, we have to set the example for our children. We have to teach them what is acceptable and what isn’t. We have to show them how they can be a part of this adult world without feeling like they don’t belong or are in the way. The best way to do that is to make babies who can’t sit still for long periods of time feel welcome and included.